01 · The problem
The wording was never the problem.
Steal these — no signup, they're yours. Each gives the other person an easy out and a clear next step, which is the whole trick. Then notice what none of them fix: you are still the one sending it.
02 · What you need
The same words, from someone whose job it is.
Every nudge you send spends your name and your goodwill — send it once and you're diligent, send it three times and you can feel yourself becoming the office nag. The identical check-in from the team's coordinator reads as process instead of pressure, so your teammate answers a task rather than a person. Swap the sender and read what changes.
03 · How it runs
The three-day chase, start to finish.
Pick what went wrong and watch that version play out. She changes approach rather than resending the same line louder — and every chase has a point where it stops and hands back to you instead of nagging forever.
04 · What it's worth
“Done” stops being something you take on trust.
The reason you keep chasing is that "yeah, it's done" isn't proof and you have been burned by it before. Connect Jira, YouTrack or Asana and ticket-linked work closes only when the tracker actually shows the change. Without a tracker she still chases and still closes the loop — but "done" is what the person told her, exactly as it is for you today.